Would you say that to a man?

This post is an amazing, yet subtle, example of the sexism that attempts to keep professional women on a different level than men. As the piece says, “If you find yourself inclined to defend some comment, think about whether you would say the same thing to a man…Rather than getting defensive, learn from your mistake and don’t do it again.”

Of Means and Ends

“I’m not going to apply for the job because I want you to get it.”

I was in my mid-20s and a promotion opened up in my division at work and I planned to apply for it. Given the hierarchy in our department, one male coworker and I were the natural ones to consider for the job. When the topic came up, that’s what he said to me: “I’m not going to apply for the job because I want you to get it.” I don’t remember what I said in the moment, but I remember quietly seething and thinking, “Don’t do me any favors. Go ahead and apply and I’ll still get it.”

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